Also, I’ve learned what detachment is not.

Detachment is not an excuse for treating another person cruelly. For example, detachment is not banishing someone from my life who fails to live up to my expectations.

Detachment is not withdrawing emotional support or intentionally setting boundaries to create conflict and strife.

Detachment is not another form of denial, in which I pretend a real problem in my life is non-existent.

Healthy detachment acknowledges the problem, accepts powerlessness over it, and chooses to no longer invest needless emotional energy into the problem.

Detachment is the healthy alternative to obsessing about a matter or seeking to manipulate or control a situation into conforming with my perception of what is best.